Debrett’s states that it’s expected for couples to have a wedding gift list, yet given our ‘British’ nature, we find it oh-so-hard to ask for anything, fearing to look too presumptuous.
However, most wedding guests wouldn’t dream of attending a wedding without having purchased a gift, so it’s definitely a good plan to have one.
With many couples already living together before they marry, gifting is much less about “setting up home” and more about guests commemorating your marriage with something you’ll keep forever. It’s also still popular to think about entertaining house guests with dinnerware, music and outside accessories such as string lights and barbecues.
Until recently, wedding gift list options hadn’t changed for a generation and there was a strong possibility that you’d end up using the same department store as your parents did for their wedding. Now couples can create lists that are a true reflection of their personalities and style, choosing gorgeous gifts from all of their favourite shops.
It’s also far more acceptable to ask guests to make a contribution to big ticket items such as the perfect honeymoon or a deposit for your first home. And with group gifting, the registry guilt can be left at the door too. As long as it’s personal, important to you and helps set you on your way then guests are usually more than happy to help. Here are a few tips on how to create the perfect gift list while keeping acceptable etiquette.
1. Have a gift list. It’s actually frustrating for guests when you don’t because they’ll almost certainly buy a gift anyway.
2. Think less about what you ‘need’ and more about what you’d ‘love’. Wedding gifts should be a luxury that you might not buy yourself.
3. Show your personal style with choices that reflect the two of you as a couple. Guests will love getting a present that is “so them!”
4. Cash towards something important is perfectly acceptable, as long as guests know what they’re helping you to achieve. Even if it is a honeymoon to die for!
5. Use a gift list service that keeps track of who gave what so it’s easy when it comes to those very important thank you notes!