The essential guide to save the dates

You’ve popped the champagne, made the obligatory announcement on social media and even chosen your venue and date. Good work! Now you just need to give your nearest and dearest the heads up, so that they can keep your all-important date free. To make your life easier, we’ve created this essential guide to Save the dates, from drafting to sending - you can thank us later.

greenvelope save the dates

Stationery: Greenvelope

What are save the dates for weddings?

Save the dates are part of your wedding stationery suite and are the official notification to your guests that you are getting married, informing them of the wedding date and location. If you’re lucky enough to receive a Save the date, it means you’re invited to the daytime and evening celebrations.

As the first piece of your wedding stationery to be shared with your guest, Save the Dates also provide a peek into your chosen wedding theme and style. Your wedding invitations, order of service, seating plan, wedding menus, signposts and other stationery will emphasise this further, too.

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Stationery: PaperGrace

paper grace gold and blue save the date

Are save the dates and wedding invitations the same?

Save the dates and invitations are sent to your wedding guests at different points in time in your wedding planning. Save the Dates announce your upcoming wedding, providing the most basic information that your guests will need to make plans to attend.

Whether the wedding will last all day or just the evening, be it informal or formal, invitations include all the necessary information for the day, including the venue, dress code, transport, accommodation arrangements, and of course, your wedding gift list details!

Are save the dates an absolute must?

Not really. Save the dates are not a strict requirement in your wedding planning. However, they’re a great way to give your guests a glimpse of your wedding ahead of time, whether you’re planning a boho barn wedding or something tropical and far-flung. Plus, the more notice you give your guests, the more likely they will be there on the day. Win win.

paper grace save the date

Stationery: PaperGrace

When to send your save the dates

You should send your wedding save the dates cards between 12 and 6 months before your wedding day, with 9 months being the sweet spot. If you’re getting married abroad, during peak seasons or you think guests may need to travel to attend, you might like to give them a little more notice so that they can look into travel and accommodation arrangements.

Do you send save the dates to evening guests too?

Your save the dates card should only be sent to those guests who are invited to the whole day. You don’t need to send them to those you’re inviting to the evening celebrations, as typically there are fewer travel arrangements required for these guests.

greenvelope save the date

Stationery: Greenvelope

greenvelope floral save the date

What should you include?

Anything that your guests will need to know to plan for your big day. There are the vitals: both your names, the date and the location. And then there’s the ‘nice to know’ such as your wedding website, perfect for including accommodation recommendations, dress code and most importantly your wedding gift registry details!

Should I include my gift registry on my save the dates?

Keep your save the dates simple, with just the information that your guests need to start planning for your big day. Now is a good time to start thinking about your wedding registry though! That way you’ve got plenty of time to register, build your list and include details in your invitations.

paper grace save the date

Stationery: PaperGrace

Can we send virtual Save the Dates?

Yes! Just bear in mind that your Save the Date could end up in a junk folder or email addresses could be out of date. Your Great Auntie Mable may not have an email address, either.

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